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Re: The "I Can't Believe There's No Abortion Thread" Abortion Thread
Yup all these things.
No maternity leave: I started a new job, but will not have been here a year before child shows up, so not only does my company not have maternity leave, I won't even qualify for FMLA (unpaid maternity leave, with continuation of health insurance and the ability to get my job back after). My company is supposed to be getting bought out and maybe they'll have better benefits, but that's on hold thanks to the government shut down.
High child care costs: Left a job I liked a few years ago to earn a better wage that may help pay for childcare. My family lives far away and husband's mom is a bit over an hour away. Part of the delay in a family was looking at when my mother-in-law would retire and be able to help with babysitting. I still don't know what we'll do for child care, but somehow we'll figure it out.
Ridiculous health care costs: Even with health insurance, this pregnancy has cost me >$1,000 so far in copays and deductibles and I'm only 4 months in. Once kid gets here the cost of my insurance will greatly increase going from 'single employee' coverage to 'family'.
Out of control education costs: Just finished paying off husband's student loans for his associate's degree. Hooray, maybe we can afford a child? I'm also fortunate in that my parents were able to pay for my education, giving me a leg up on everyone with student loans.
Stagnate wages: Previously mentioned leaving job where I had been for 5 years with no salary increase (not even a cost of living). Bills keep getting more expensive, but my pay didn't increase.
I'll also add a few more:
Need for dual income. Most families cannot get by on a single income anymore. This means having to figure out child care and maternity leave. I wish I had the luxury of taking a few years off from working to raise my child.
Motherhood penalty. With my education and career choice, I have more earning potential than my husband. Not knowing if my job will be here after I have the child, it may be difficult to find another job and to continue to advance my career and not stagnate. Even in 2019, it's assumed by most that the mother will be the primary caretaker. I was taken aback when my husband's grandma asked if I was going to go back to work after having the child. She didn't ask her grandson the same question.
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No maternity leave: I started a new job, but will not have been here a year before child shows up, so not only does my company not have maternity leave, I won't even qualify for FMLA (unpaid maternity leave, with continuation of health insurance and the ability to get my job back after). My company is supposed to be getting bought out and maybe they'll have better benefits, but that's on hold thanks to the government shut down.
High child care costs: Left a job I liked a few years ago to earn a better wage that may help pay for childcare. My family lives far away and husband's mom is a bit over an hour away. Part of the delay in a family was looking at when my mother-in-law would retire and be able to help with babysitting. I still don't know what we'll do for child care, but somehow we'll figure it out.
Ridiculous health care costs: Even with health insurance, this pregnancy has cost me >$1,000 so far in copays and deductibles and I'm only 4 months in. Once kid gets here the cost of my insurance will greatly increase going from 'single employee' coverage to 'family'.
Out of control education costs: Just finished paying off husband's student loans for his associate's degree. Hooray, maybe we can afford a child? I'm also fortunate in that my parents were able to pay for my education, giving me a leg up on everyone with student loans.
Stagnate wages: Previously mentioned leaving job where I had been for 5 years with no salary increase (not even a cost of living). Bills keep getting more expensive, but my pay didn't increase.
I'll also add a few more:
Need for dual income. Most families cannot get by on a single income anymore. This means having to figure out child care and maternity leave. I wish I had the luxury of taking a few years off from working to raise my child.
Motherhood penalty. With my education and career choice, I have more earning potential than my husband. Not knowing if my job will be here after I have the child, it may be difficult to find another job and to continue to advance my career and not stagnate. Even in 2019, it's assumed by most that the mother will be the primary caretaker. I was taken aback when my husband's grandma asked if I was going to go back to work after having the child. She didn't ask her grandson the same question.
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